Social Skills and the 5 Keys to Winning Friends

By Peter Murphy

Having good social skills is very important. You interact with people
throughout your day and being able to do so skillfully will help you.

Not only in a work environment where social skills allow you to build
business, but also on a personal level where you gain friends through
your people skills.

Knowing the basics will help you to build good people skills that can
make you successful in building good relationships.

Social skills are the way you interact with other people. It includes
the way you talk, your body language and how you treat others in general.

We start building social skills at birth. We learn how to talk, how to
react in certain situations and how to act towards others by what we
learn from those around us.

If you have problems with your people skills it is easiest to fix them
by looking at the basics.

1. Learn to stay calm.

You should not be nervous or worried during your social interactions.
This only leads to mistakes and others seeing you as being aloof. You
can also focus more on others and the conversation if you are calm.

2. Watch your body language.

Much of our conversation is based on body language. You can make
others feel uncomfortable with body language or you can make them feel
at ease. Body language includes hand gestures and facial expressions
as well, so watch fidgeting or weird facial movements.

3. Learn to be interested in others.

This comes natural to most, but for others focusing on someone else
can be hard. If you make eye contact and listen to others you will
learn how to focus on them and not other things around you.

You will come across as genuinely being interested in others and
people tend to enjoy interacting with someone who cares.

4. Look at how you use your social skills.

Before trying to change you should take a look at how you interact
now. See what seems to be wrong so you know exactly what to work on.

5. Work on your general conversation skills.

You may need to brush up your communication skills if you find you
have problems just carrying on a conversation. You should look at good
conversation starters, how to handle others during a conversation,
body language skills and small talk skills. Knowing how to be a good
conversationalist will help your social skills immensely.

These five points cover the basics of people skills that everyone
should know. If you go through and learn all five you should be able
to tackle any problems you have with social skills.

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